by Dr. David Simon

Free to Love, Free to Heal


Thursday, February 4th, 2010

At some point we all experience painful losses and emotional upsets such as a difficult childhood, death of a loved one, divorce, and other difficult life experiences.  If we continue to carry the stored pain of the past, this emotional toxicity makes it almost impossible to truly love and experience nurturing relationships.

This Monday, February 8 on  “Relationships 101,” Dr. David Simon and radio host Dr. Beth Erickson will discuss the keys to letting go of emotional pain and freeing yourself to enjoy loving relationships with others – and yourself.  Tune in to www. webtalkradio.net any time after noon (central standard time ) to  hear an inspiring and hope-filled conversation.

Thursday, December 17th, 2009

[This article was featured in the December issue of Elevated Existence Magazine.]

The Chopra Center’s Dr. David Simon explains the connection between emotions and disease, and the holistic way to find wholeness and health.

david-simon-portrait-webBeyond the Symptoms

By Tammy Mastroberte

When our head starts pounding, our stomach starts churning or our chest is on fire from heartburn, the first place we usually run to is the medicine cabinet. And when we can’t find relief on our own, the next step is the doctor’s office, where the physician often turns to his or her prescription pad to alleviate our symptoms.

This has been the routine for many of us, who learned over the years that when we feel bad — physically or mentally — a pill is the answer. And in some cases, this is absolutely true. But what if there was an alternative to medication that would soothe anxiety or depression? What if our stomach cramps or acid indigestion is really the body’s way of letting us know our emotions need tending to?

book-cover-web2These questions are the reason Dr. David Simon wrote his newest book, Free to Love, Free to Heal: Heal Your Body by Healing Your Emotions, and created an emotional freedom course at the Chopra Center, both of which are based on his experience as a physician who has looked at life and health holistically for more than three decades.

“If you give people the safety needed, you will find everyone has a story underlying their symptoms or illness, and if we can bring that fromthe subconscious to the conscious, there are opportunities for healing,” he tells Elevated Existence.

“It’s about revealing the underlying story and writing a more empowering chapter. This can often help people get off or reduce their medication needs for a variety of things.”

Of course, there are some cases where medication is required, such as an auto accident, sudden heart attack or a urinary tract infection, Simon says. In these cases, medication can be lifesaving. But there are many instances where modifying a person’s lifestyle and looking at emotional factors can help alleviate ailments just as effectively as a pill.

“Traditionally, the physician’s job is to find the biochemical to relieve someone’s suffering. They don’t think of stress when someone has high blood pressure, it’s more about giving them a medication that can bring it down,” he explains.

Heart in the Sand“If someone is depressed, a doctor often doesn’t look at what’s happening in the person’s relationships, how they might not be nourishing themselves, or even if a person has found meaning or purpose in life. It’s more about a deficiency in serotonin. That is the conventional model.”

Simon approached medical school from a different perspective, majoring in anthropology and studying medicine in non-Western cultures. He did his thesis on shamanism, and in between his graduate studies and medical school, became a meditation and yoga instructor.

“I learned health was about love, but in medical school they teach that people are molecular machines, and when the machine isn’t twirling properly, to introduce a new molecule. We are taught to treat symptoms rather than look at the root of illness,” Simon says.

The Role of Emotions in Illness
He believes there is an emotional component to all illness, and a mind/body approach works well, especially for psychosomatic illnesses such as functional bowel disorders, chronic pain, migraines and fibromyalgia. Even heart disease has some emotional component, he explains, although genetics, diet and exercise do play a role.

“At any one time, 20 percent to 25 percent of the population is struggling with digestion, whether its heartburn or irritable bowel, and these have a strong emotional component,” Simon notes.

Many autoimmune diseases, including multiple sclerosis and rheumatoid arthritis, also have a direct correlation to emotions. “Most people with an autoimmune disease say their illness gets aggravated when they are stressed, and when they are not, the symptoms get quiet for a while,” he says, citing a study done with people suffering from an autoimmune disease who were admitted into a hospital.

Patients were asked about physical, emotional, sexual or drug abuse in the family as a child, and the study showed an increased risk of an autoimmune disease as an adult when one or more of these factors are present. Additionally, issues about food — whether eating too much or too little — all have underlying emotional components.

The answer is to help people fill their needs directly rather than going through food, Simon says, explaining that whether it’s food, drugs or alcohol, addictive behaviors are a person’s attempt to self-medicate.

The Hidden Message of Symptoms
But whether it’s self-medicating or turning to a doctor’s prescription, when the underlying emotional components are not addressed, new symptoms will often crop up over time, he explains. The body will continue to create disease until the emotional causes are uncovered and resolved.

“The body is trying to get our attention because it is carrying some pain — often emotional — that needs some direct attention,” he explains. “Whether it’s a headache, backache or irritable bowel, the body is asking ‘Can someone please pay attention?’ But rather than doing that, we just suppress the symptom with some type of medication, and then it often finds another way to get our attention.”

AppleStethoscopeFor example, a patient will often go to the doctor because of a migraine headache, and the doctor will prescribe a medication. Then the patient comes back into the office saying his or her headache is better, but now they have a side effect, or a new symptom. The doctor will then prescribe a new medication for the new symptoms or side effect, and that is why people often wind up on five or six medications, Simon says.

“You have to look back to the beginning and see what triggered the episode. When I see people like this, it often goes back to one thing — such as being emotionally or physically abused as a child — and they often need someone to hear their story and help them heal that story. Once it’s resolved, the symptoms often go away.”

Alleviating Anxiety and Depression
When dealing with many mental or psychiatric disorders, medication is extremely important. Illnesses such as schizophrenia or bipolar disorder — often based on a deeper genetic, biochemical imbalance — require medication, Simon says. But

for issues with anxiety, depression and insomnia, a mind/body approach can have amazing effects. And when used in conjunction, can get people off medication sooner.

“Medication for these things can be such an easy shortcut, and we need to raise the threshold of how readily doctors are giving them out,” he explains,

noting often people will feel better from the medicine and the underlying issue will never be addressed. “When someone dies, suddenly a person is put on an antidepressant, and they are not even allowed to grieve.”

Reducing our Dependence on Medication
Ideally, Simon believes medication should be used for a short period of time while helping people work through their issues, along with teaching them alternative lifestyle changes, such as meditation and yoga.

“People often just want relief, and if doctors offered them relief without going on a psychotropic medication, most people would opt for that, but so many just give the pill,” he says.

While a psychiatrist might know that if a person started meditation on a regular basis and reduced the amount of caffeine they take in during the day, it might help with their anxiety, many assume the patient won’t do these things, and so they just offer a pill, Simon explains. But in essence, people are “outsourcing their biochemistry.”

“I work with people trying to get off medication all the time, and I tell them, ‘If you had a manufacturing plant in the United States and you learned you could do the work overseas for much less, you would fire everyone and move. But then, if all of the sudden you decide you want to start back in the United States, you can’t just open up the same day — it takes time.’”

Simon says the same is true with the human brain. Once you start giving it serotonin from the outside, it realizes it doesn’t have to make it from the inside anymore. So getting off of medication can take four to six weeks, “until the brain says, ‘Oh, you’re serious. You really are going to make me manufacture this myself,’” he explains.

By looking at diet, exercise and sleep habits, shifts can be made to produce the same chemicals from within, rather than depending on an outside source. Getting to bed by 10 p.m., eating healthy foods, walking in beautiful, natural settings and more can help create a feeling of peace and keep a person centered.

woman meditation on hill XSmall“The practice of meditation is key because it gives people a glimpse of how they can generate peace inside their own body,” Simon says. “Good, healthy food; good smells; nourishing sounds; and good relationships — if everyone had these things we would all be healthy and happy. At the Chopra Center, we recreate the memory of wholeness, and teach skills to allow people to stay connected to their center.”

Particularly when it comes to anxiety, Simon believes by putting time into it and learning these new skills, people can learn to live without anxiety in a natural way. “Living without anxiety is a skill set that we have to be taught, and then the need for medication will go away,” he explains.

Making Changes
The Chopra Center offers emotional healing seminars, which Simon says he has been
developing for years. The first of the two-part series dedicated to emotional healing is called Free to Love, which takes place over three days and is about identifying, mobilizing and releasing emotional toxicity getting in the way of good health. The second part is Free to Heal, which dedicates five days focused on rejuvenation for
the body.

“Fee to Love is intensely healing, but we are finding people are pretty raw afterward, and so we encourage them to learn how to take better care of themselves in a compassionate and loving way through the second course, Free to Heal, explains Simon. “With both, they have the deep insights to release the pain, and also have the tools to move forward, treat themselves lovingly and have healthy relationships.”
In his book, which is a guide to the Free to Love process, Simon reveals a variety of methods for emotional clearing, including heart-opening yoga poses, breathing exercises and specific “intuitive self-reflection” exercises that take the reader through a series of questions to both reflect upon and journal about.

Yoga for Emotional Healing

Yoga on the beach.“Breath and thought work closely together, so we find that by consciously using the breath, we can access information we previously suppressed,” he says. Also, the yoga poses were developed over the years to make it easier for people to bring awareness into the places of the body associated with emotions, and stretching, moving and
breathing helps the release of toxic emotions from the body.

“If people are tuned in, they feel emotions in the heart, gut and occasionally the sexual organs,” Simon explains. “The yoga poses are designed to open up the core emotional center and release the energy trapped inside.”

And while many who go through the program or do it themselves at home may be tempted not to do the journaling element, Simon says it is a very important piece. Rather than going through the steps in the mind, writing them down is necessary — not only to remember the insights revealed, but to get them out of our minds and onto the paper.
1128174902kD2fi8“We carry all this stuff around on our internal hard drive, and when we write it down, it’s like downloading it to a flash drive and creating space,” Simon says. “We need to quiet down the usual conversation of our mind and start asking questions from a deeper place. We may not think we know what we need, but we do know it somewhere, and intuitive self-reflection is a way of hearing the truth and bringing into awareness.”

The key to emotional health, and in turn physical health, is learning how to stay centered, no matter what life throws at us. It’s about learning to make better choices, and knowing we all deserve to be happy and healthy, have nurturing relationships and have a meaningful life by expressing our unique purpose. By ridding ourselves of toxic emotions — some we may have been carrying around for a lifetime — and learning a new, healthy way to live and love, we can find our center and know how to return to it when we fall off.

“If we have an inner state of wellbeing, where the mind is relatively quiet and the body is in comfort, we can evaluate, and listen to our bodies and minds to get information from a deeper place,” Simons says.

When evaluating a decision in life, our mind and body will often generate signals, letting us know when something doesn’t feel right. The more centered we are, the more likely we will be able to recognize the signals, he notes.

“The more your baseline is centered, balanced and comfortable, the more sensitive you will be to going out of your center. But if your baseline is one of chaos, you won’t even notice you are out of balance.”

To learn more about upcoming Free to Love, Free to Heal workshops in 2010, click here.

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David Simon, M.D. is the medical director and co-founder of the Chopra Center
for Wellbeing in Carlsbad, California. Visit www.chopra.com/freetolove or call 888.736.6895 to learn more about the Free to Love process and David’s upcoming emotional healing workshops.

Thursday, December 10th, 2009

book-cover-web1If you missed last night’s amazing Free to Love Teleconference, we are giving you a final opportunity to replay the powerful message of emotional freedom from Dr. David Simon.

Please click here to listen!

Friday, December 4th, 2009

You are invited to a FREE Call with Dr. David Simon, best-selling author and co-founder of the Chopra Center for Wellbeing.

This December 9th at 5:00 pm Pacific, David is hosting a special teleconference for anyone who wants to heal emotional pain and reclaim their birthright to be happy.
To sign up for the teleconference, please click here.

Monday, November 30th, 2009

david-simon-portrait-webQuestion: I’ve been having problems lately with dizziness and a lack of balance. I feel like I’m going to fall. . . very unstable, like I’m walking on a wave. Could you help me? Thank you.

Answer: Considering that the earth is spinning at approximately 1,000 miles per hour, it’s amazing that we don’t all feel perpetually dizzy. The fact that we don’t is a testimony to the fact that we have an amazing brain, nervous and balance systems that give us the illusion that we’re standing still. There are many causes of dizziness, and it’s important that you get a full evaluation by a neurologist or an ear, nose, and throat specialist to make sure that the cause is benign.

Dizziness is often caused by problems in the inner ear. Studies show that over time, doing exercises that challenge your balance system may lessen your symptoms. I would seek out a local yoga studio, explain your condition, and ask them to teach you a set of yoga poses that will gently stimulate your balance system. If after practicing your yoga poses for a month you don’t get the relief you deserve, you may want to consider two herbs. The first is ginger, which can help reduce nausea and dizziness. You can make a simple ginger tea to sip throughout the day. Find a ginger tea recipe here. The second herb is ginkgo biloba, which increases the flow of blood to the brain and vestibular system, and may overcome the imbalances in signals that contribute to the sense that things are moving.

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Friday, November 20th, 2009

In the Chopra Center’s November Agni Newsletter, David Simon offers a divine prayer of gratitude. Read the newsletter here.

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

Dear Dr. Simon,

I had a small argument with a loved one. It was nothing so serious ― in fact, it was rather unimportant ― but I stayed angry for two days and didn’t speak to him. On the third day, he went out to buy some groceries, had a stroke, and passed away one week later. He did not suffer from any major illnesses, and his blood pressure was only a little high, and he exercised regularly. I am feeling very, very guilty, and believe that his death was my fault.
Please help me. Bibi

Dear Bibi,

I can understand why you would feel dreadfully upset about this sequence of events, but know that the argument by itself was not responsible for his death. You need to take time to grieve and heal. In your meditations have a silent conversation with this person, expressing your sorrow and asking for forgiveness.

Assuming that this relationship was usually loving, it would be hard to imagine he would want you to continue feeling guilty. Perform some ritual of release and forgiveness, making a commitment to honor his memory in a way that reflects your love and the contributions he made to your life. If there is continuity of the soul, he has already forgiven you.

We never know the moment when our life or the life of a loved one will end.  Remembering that our time on earth is fleetingly short compels us to live with greater awareness and gratitude.

With love,
David

Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009

Dr. David Simon recently sat down with Inside Personal Growth host Greg Voisin to discuss the keys to emotional healing and the five-step Free to Love healing process.  Download the podcast here.

Monday, October 12th, 2009

Dear Dr. Simon,
Normally I stress for only a few hours but for the past 6 months, I’ve been experiencing ongoing anxiety, stress, and worry. I believe the stress has weakened my body, and I need to relax and get healthy again. How do I reverse this? I am grateful for your time and assistance.

Answer:
Worrying about the future is like paying interest on a loan that you haven’t taken out. Even when they realize it isn’t logical, many people spend a lot of time ruminating about the past and worrying about the future. The way out of this cycle is finding opportunities to enter into present-moment awareness. Meditation is the most important first step in learning to quiet the mind and calm the chemistry that creates feelings of stress.

I encourage you to get daily exercise, and find time each day to do some kind of creative activity that you enjoy, such as dance, poetry, journaling, painting, or pottery. Give yourself 20 minutes a day to feel anxious, then consciously redirect your mind to more fruitful thoughts that celebrate the magic and mystery of a human incarnation.

It sometimes helps to bring in a littleness and humor to put your worrying into perspective. For example, for this week, focus all of your anxiety on global warming and the possibility that a meteorite could hit our planet at any time. By taking a more proactive role in your worrying, you may recognize that you have the ability to change the “channel” in your mind from one that generates agitation to one that encourages peace.

With love,
David

Sunday, October 4th, 2009

This October 16, at 7 p.m., Dr. Simon will host an evening discussion and book signing at the Seaside Center for Spiritual Living in Encinitas, California. Learn how you can release the pain of the past and  create a life filled with balance, joy, and wellbeing. Click here for more information